The Red Knight

July 18, 2008

What is a beso-beso? It’s a Filipino word, and it’s one of our ways to greet (and I don’t know if people from other countries do that). It’s like kissing, but instead of lips-to-lips it is cheek-to-cheek, and as such is more casual than romantic. So when people ask you to give them a beso-beso, they’re less likely to mean that they want to sleep with you than when they ask you to kiss them.

So if anyone here didn’t know what beso-beso is then I hope you keep what I just mentioned in mind. Remember this, verbatim: cheek-to-cheek, nothing oral.

I sure wish that the Nightdreamer from two hours ago could hear anything I say here. See, a while ago I was just about to part ways with this woman I watched The Dark Knight with (great movie, btw) when she moved her right cheek towards me and asked for a beso-beso. And after I gave her what I thought was a beso-beso she laughed, “Hah, Nightdreamer, beso-beso! You kissed my cheek!”

I vaguely understood what she meant but I could already start feeling an embarrassment like that of a person who dived to a moshpit, only to fall to the ground. Nervously, I asked, “Huh? Did I do it wrong?”

She replied, “Well, sheesh, cheek-to-cheek, man!”

Wow. Like, my legs just got uncontrollaby wobbly there. And as if it wasn’t bad enough that I knew nil about beso-beso, my reaction was even stupider! After throwing what seemed like perpetual apologies, I added, “maybe next time you oughta teach me how to do a beso-beso.” Then I asked myself just what the hell I meant by saying that, because I sounded more flirtatious than genuinely needing to be corrected!

I’m actually worried because I might’ve offended her. I asked her out because I hadn’t spoken with her for a long time and I just wanted to get in touch with her (and other classmates from high school or college) again. I wanted to have a deeper understanding of her because I like her personality a lot; but then I also wanted to make it clear that I wasn’t trying to flirt with her because she kind of thinks that I was. You probably wouldn’t believe me either, grinning while hooting, “Wow Nightdreamer, you got smooth moves, you smooth operator!” Well, shut up! I am honest when I say that I am not flirting with her. So why did I have to screw up the first day since 2 years that we met? All I did was made myself more easily misunderstood, and that’s just great, because I may have ruined the chance of making her agree to see movies with me again! Worst of all, I can’t even explain things to her, because I will only sound more stupid!

Good grief, I don’t know what to do! I kissed a woman who wanted a cheek-to-cheek! Please gimme a paper bag so I can hide my shamefaced face in it.

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Previous Comments

this kris, what a full of LOLS.

Posted by liz at July 18, 2008, 10:13 am

who’s the gal?

Posted by Mike L at July 18, 2008, 10:13 am

Mike Lu, right? I’m not telling. :P

Posted by nightdreamer at July 18, 2008, 10:15 am

Ah, don’t sweat it… a cheek kiss is no big deal, especially if she DIDN’T slap you or call you a jerk. maybe she even liked it. ; )

Posted by Brad at July 18, 2008, 11:48 am

Ok so she neither slapped me nor called me a jerk.

Posted by nightdreamer at July 18, 2008, 12:03 pm

That wasn’t so bad. :)

Unless…

Posted by Ria Jose at July 18, 2008, 1:07 pm

ahahaha smooth moves kris, look at you! C’mon man don’t get paranoid, I’ve done so much worse it’s hard to believe. Buy her a drink next time and just fold your arms around her and kiss her passionately on the lips. Or alternatively just try explaining yourself, it never goes as bad as you think.
Ta you casanova old boy.

Posted by John Silver at July 18, 2008, 11:17 pm

that’s alright, it’s just a kiss on the cheeks. I do that too with my guy friends. ;-)

Posted by cigarette-girl at July 19, 2008, 8:01 am

@Ria Jose: Unless what?

@John Silver: I’d sure like to hear the so much worse things you’ve done. Anyway, I managed to talk to her (though only briefly) a day after this, and she didn’t sound the least bit upset about yesterday. Whew.

@cigarette-girl: NOTED! :P

Posted by nightdreamer at July 19, 2008, 10:57 am

I only do this with my aunts from the other side of the family - yung ayaw ng nagmamano. hehe

Posted by benj at July 19, 2008, 10:45 pm

Good Lord, just admit that you’re being plain flirtatious. Don’t need to act all innocent. :D

*yet another attempt to mess with the Uncle*

Posted by aDeLiNe at July 21, 2008, 2:37 pm

well, if you must know, i really don’t know how to react when I meet a woman I’m attracted to for the first time.

One time this woman, I just met went near me and I stiffened. NO NO NO! I don’t mean that “stiffened”, just the normal body losing control of it’s limbs and parts stiffening. Yep, I just froze when she moved in for some cheek to cheek action. But don’t mind me, I’m such a prude and she actually thought it was funny. I have learned to be loosen up after that experience. Though, I have yet gotten a chance to react that way (not exactly going out for dates). ;)

Posted by virus at July 23, 2008, 3:05 pm

But this is different! This is supposedly just a friendly date, and I’m not attracted to the girl (okay, so maybe a bit). At least you looked like a hard-to-get person, and chicks dig that. What about me? I looked like an overeager stallion!

Posted by nightdreamer at July 23, 2008, 3:24 pm

well ND, think of it this way. Some chicks dig an overeager stallion. ;) So don’t sweat it.

Besides you yourself said that you like the girl (well sort of), so take the kiss and cherish it. Hehehe. Even though it was an accident. It was an accident…….wasn’t it? Hehehehe

Posted by virus at July 23, 2008, 7:27 pm

Stop being embarrassed. You’ve just surpassed many guys who haven’t kissed real girls yet (those that aren’t relatives). :P

Posted by Pity at August 12, 2008, 10:39 pm

@Pity if you must know, I already have kissed real girls long before this incident. :P

Posted by nightdreamer at August 12, 2008, 10:57 pm

nothing to be embarrased about dude
to think the girl actually said it sarcastically
hehe

Posted by ying at August 22, 2008, 4:18 pm

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